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HAPPY PRIDE

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Buddies of New Jersey, Inc,

IS PROUD

to be allowed to serve everyone in our community and every color of the rainbow…

This bulletin is to honor gay pride month in a time of social distancing. Included are some dates and events that are worth knowing about, some pride activities, educational opportunities, sexual health resources,and recognition of LGBTQIA+ accomplishments.

May we follow the lead of our Founder, Franklin A. Smith who was proud to be able to provide support, services and resources for people living with and affected by HIV/AIDS before there was even a penny provided to do so. I am so proud of Frank as well as others, both LGBTQIA+ Persons and Allies, because of the kindness and generosity given so that others may have life and live it with dignity.

 

FROM SUNDAY JUNE 7th

VIRTUAL JERSEY PRIDE EVENT

THE ANNUAL JERSEY PRIDE CELEBRATION

has been moved to October 22nd provided we are able to do so

PRIDE FLAG RAISING | Thursday June 18th

10AM @ the Harrsison House &

2PM @ the Gazebo of the Bergen New Bridge Medical Center

 

Supreme Court finds federal law bars LGBT discrimination in workplace

Two of the court’s Republican appointees joined the court’s

Democratic appointees to deliver the surprising, 6-3 victory to LGBT advocates.

READ MORE

 

 

THE OCEAN GROVE HEALTH RETREAT IS SLATED TO BE CHANGED

and unless we have a safe way to do so in person…

the plan is for VIRTUAL RETREAT October 28th to 31st

ENDING WITH A HALLOWEEN MIXER ON 31st more info. TBA.

CLICK to see if you can be a part of this: HERE

 

Newark Pride planned for July 19

https://newarkpride.org/pride–festival/newark-events/

Jersey City Pride Still Planned for August

https://jerseycitypride.com/

 

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EVENTS, LINKS, ITEMS OF INTEREST

PRIDE MONTH – Right now many organizations are rearranging themselves to change schedules. We had to cancel our annual participation in Jersey Pride next weekend, as well as the Ocean Grove Health Retreat, and other events in the foreseeable future. Event cancellation does not mean we should cancel or postpone LGBTQIA+ Pride in any way, just how we normally celebrate it. So, be creative celebrate this JUNE, GAY PRIDE MONTH as you see fit.

 

30 DAYS OF PRIDE HERE is a brief consideration and 30 DAY GUIDE of how we can all celebrate PRIDE in a different, deep way.

 

FOOD DISTRIBUTION – SATURDAYS JUNE 13th and 27th, in addition to our current schedule, we are making food and essential items available to the first 500 families. ANYONE IN NEED IS WELCOME to come with a NJ State ID or DL, a face mask, and being able to follow social distancing guidelines.

CLICK HERE to view/print flyers in Spanish and English.

 

Let’s Talk About Risks WEBINAR SERIES

Eric Cabrera from Buddies of NJ will be the profession guest speaker

during our highlighted discussion on Stage-based Counseling Strategies.

We’ll see you NEXT Wednesday, June 10th from 11am-12:30pm

 

BLACK LIVES MATTER is a slogan that Buddies of New Jersey embraces and can profess whole hardheartedly! Please stay safe and avoid behavior that can increase the spread of COVID-19 or hurt others as we proudly express this core belief.

 

GAY PRIDE SURVEY – How Do We Celebrate Pride

 

DONAY’S HILLWALKERS – Donay, the salsa instructor from 2019 Kickoff Party for the NJ AIDS WALK, is starting a group of people who will do modified hill-walking at their own pace on Sunday Mornings in Bergen County. For more information, contact: Donay Wilford <donaysfitness4u@gmail.com>

 

GAY PRIDE FUN QUIZZES at quote tv

 

TRANS LIFE – CLICK HERE to find out about groups in your area. PATHWAYS meets at Buddies of NJ when covid restrictions are not in place.

 

VIRTUAL SPEED DATING at SELF SUPPORT GROUP | Monday – June 29th

We will try a virtual speed dating … questions will be fun … but will also help us practice how to discuss difficult topics with a potential partner. SIGN UP HERE

 

HIV COMMUNITIES FEEDING OTHERS IN NEED – Read this article from TheBody Magazine featuring our own Xio Mora-Lopez. CLICK HERE

 

Jersey Pride & Gay Men’s Health Retreat

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Jersey Pride Sunday June 2 in Asbury Park –  Join Us at Our Table  | Let Us Know if You Want to March

SUNDAY – JUNE 2RD to WEDNESDAY – JUNE 5TH

NJ’s 5th Gay Men’s Health Retreat

CLICK HERE TO FILL IN APPLICATION ONLINE

This 3-Day Retreat is offered at a fraction of the cost of similar retreats throughout the country. We officially include people living with HIV, people who are affected by HIV, and our allies. This affordable retreat is due to the generosity of the Bath Avenue House donating nearly half of the lodging cost in memory of our friend, and Buddies’ former Director, Stephen Scheuermann. We are also lucky to have the support of volunteers, speakers, restaurants, and groups who provide meals with presentations.

HIV has been one of the biggest fears that many of us, gay or bi men, are faced with. HIV, a virus that has changed lives forever in ways never expected. We, as a community, have fought to inform policy that is beating this virus and that is seeking to establish a permanent voice of equality in how we are treated. U=U is now official; UNDETECTABLE = UNTRANSMITTABLE ! HIV, although still with us, is becoming less relevant:So NOW WHAT???

Of course, our major goal is lowering the viral load to undetectable and stopping the spread of HIV. HIV is only one of the health challenges we face. HIV is now very treatable, more easily preventable, and no longer a death sentence, yet we still have unique challenges that other illnesses do not. HIV has given us an opportunity to renew who we are and how we take care of ourselves… even when we slip backward. We are not much different than other people who decide to turn their struggles into championships. HIV, however, is a unique challenge and it helps to find support from others who experience similar twists in: health, lifestyles, family, relationships, employment, legalities, spirituality, and more…

THIS YEAR’S THEME IS: So, NOW WHAT ???

Activities and Presentations Will Touch On: Health & Wellness Beyond HIV; Giving Ourselves Space to Heal; Physical Activity & Cardio Vascular Health; Mental Wellness; Healthier Cooking; Listening & Understanding; Healthy Communication; Self-Advocacy; Disclosure vs. Non-Disclosure; Sexual Intimacy; Healthy Relationships; Prevention & PrEP; Spirituality and More…

Participants will be able to see the Jersey shore (≈300 steps away) and breathe it in, just as the warm weather begins to envelop its coast. Gay and Bi men will have a chance to relax and enjoy themselves and others who are different, yet, share similar life circumstances. It is a time to gain awareness of where we are in life and to where life may be calling us. It is a time to discover and acknowledge our strengths, weaknesses, talents, frailties, desires, needs, and more… Together we create a safe, stigma-free environment where we have us a chance to articulate who and what may support us in our journeys towards a healthier life. This is not an intense weekend of problem solving; it is going to be relaxing and fun!

YOU MAY ATTEND: Any adult man (cis or trans) who self identifies as gay, bi-sexual, or MSM may apply to attend regardless of age, race, nationality, socio-economic status, looks, religious beliefs, or political stature.

Safe space is a priority! It is our goal to keep this a safe place free of judgement or fear. We will ask that selected applicants will only be those who can present a proof of status and/or demonstrate how HIV strongly affects their lives. Anyone who pays prior to filing application is entitled to full refund if not selected. If you are coming for any other reasons than: self-enhancement, relaxation, fun, and/or brief time away from responsibilities… you may choose not to apply or to call and find out if you may experience what you hope to out of this retreat. Space is limited; apply soon!

The cost for 3-Nights & 3 Days in advance is only $210.00 per person (MEALS INCLUDED). This must be paid in advance to NJB by check or online at Eventbrite by May 6th. Upgrade to single bed room is $50. The cost is $225. after May 6th unless payment plan is arranged by emailing ray@njbuddies.org .

Need Help CLICK HERE TO APPLY FOR SCHOLARSHIP

To Bring or Not To Bring …

Bring weather appropriate, comfortable clothing. Bringa nice-a pair a clothes for going one night on the town… but DO NOT OVER PACK unless you are THE QUEEN! Clean bedding, pillows, and towels are provided. Generic soap and shampoo are also provided; please bring your own tooth brush, hair brush, and/or any specialty care items for hygiene with you. Bring medications but please list any that you are bringing; narcotic prescriptions must be approved prior to acceptance of application. Alcohol and non-prescription drugs also may not be brought on premise. Smoking may only happen off premise… it will be assumed that anyone found smoking in the house is on fire and appropriate measure will be taken to put you out. There will be plenty of free time and open space for persons who need to smoke. Watches and cell phones may not be audible or visible during presentations and/or discussions; there will be safe areas available to place them during those times. Please leave negative attitudes at home. Bring on the fun and stay positive!

Talents and Skills

If you have any talents or skills that you believe can benefit persons attending this retreat, please let us know; write: ray@njbuddies.org subject: retreat talents and skills

The Schedule

FULL SCHEDULE WILL BE EMAILED TO ALL REGISTRANTS

on the Friday before the retreat

As usual, we piggy-back on the Annual Jersey Pride Celebration

Those Who Arrive Early for PRIDE May Check In & Leave Baggage in Secure Area

FULL SCHEDULE WILL BE POSTED… This retreat is for self-relaxation and growth. No one is required to attend all meeting or activities… Please, however, try to attend as many that you feel you are able to. Additionally, any sponsored meals will only be for participatnts. If you choose not to particapate for a sponsored meal, you must then provide for your own meal at that time. The schedule will provide for plenty of free time and personal space. All we ask is that you do not schedule or partake in alternative activities during times that things are scheduled. Gathering and Pizza & Salad will be at SUNDAY @ 6:00PM

The Retreat will begin evening promptly at 7:00PM.

The men will enjoy pizza and salad prior to welcoming and “house-keeping”. The guys will enjoy a couple activities followed by an inspiring talk. Then just before retiring to a comfortable room we will have warm beverages and cookies out on the porch.

Monday morning a full country breakfast will be served. Lunch at ——- provided by —–. Dinner at —- by —-.

Tuesday morning a full country breakfast will be served. Presentations, discussions, and activities will happen throughout the day. One activity will be fun as it involves spending time on the streets and landscape of beautiful Ocean Grove and Asbury Park. Lunch by …

Wednesday morning a full country breakfast will be served again. There will be a very brief weekend recap and evaluation following a morning sexuality workshop. This will be done efficiently for anyone who needs to leave before 10:30am may do so.12pm Lunch by Gilead You may choose to check your bags and/or make arrangement to stay longer if weather and vacancy permits.

Meals by: , , , & consumer educational programs.

Transportation

Each participant may:

  1. Drive down in his own vehicle; there is plenty of safe street parking.
  2. Carpool with friend(s). (Please offer an appropriate gratuity for gas and tolls when someone is kind enough to drive.)
  3. Apply early for transportation via NJB – LIMITED SPACE
  4. Use NJ Transit

SEE THE ABOVE PAYMENT OPTIONS

*minimum down payment is $50.

ALL BALANCES DUE ON JUNE 1st

PAYMENT SCHEDULES CAN BE MADE FOR THOSE WHO CANNOT AFFORD

As seen on Retreat Finder: the online directory of spiritual and healing retreats

Link: https://www.retreatfinder.com

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